by Dr. Adams | Emotional Illness
When people have mismatches in their level of support in their personal close relationships they suffer emotional distress and illness. By a mismatch I mean people who give more emotional support than they receive in return. Or, a mismatch can take place when a person...
by Dr. Adams | How To Understand Yourself
There are both good and bad aspects of being a “high-coper.” Recall that “high-coping” people are those that deal well with adversity, at least superficially. The good aspects are they like to solve dilemmas and problems. They develop strategies well. They put ideas...
by Dr. Adams | Children/Child Rearing
At times, being a parent can be such a stressful, agonizing job, that we lose all perspective as to what we want to accomplish. What are the goals of childrearing? For one goal we want to create competent adults out of our children. By competent I mean adults who can...
by Dr. Adams | Children/Child Rearing
Most parents are unaware consciously and unconsciously that they create children who are like themselves or their spouses. They are also unaware that their children are as unbalanced in their personalities as they, the parents, are. Each child’s personality is set by...
by Dr. Adams | Relationships
The way we relate to other people is unconscious. This means we are not aware of how we judge and treat others. People do not relate in the same way to all other people. Nor do people even act and think the same way toward themselves when they are with different...
by Dr. Adams | How To Understand Yourself
“The writer of originality, unless dead, is always shocking, scandalous; novelty disturbs and repels.” Simone de Beauvoir (1908-1986)
by Dr. Adams | How To Understand Yourself
“Demand it courageously.” “Make some room for yourself, human animal. Even a dog jostles about on his master’s lap to improve his position. And when he needs space he runs forward, without paying attention to commands or calls. If you didn’t manage to receive freedom...
by Dr. Adams | Emotional Illness, Relationships
Most people relate in an unbalanced way that does not help either person. What do I mean? People get in roles and ruts in how they relate with others. Some people are always demanding and expect other people to quickly do what they want, in exactly the way they want...
by Dr. Adams | Relationships
What do I mean by balance in relationships? I mean the ebb and flow of nurturance you receive and nurturance you give to one another. Most relationships are unbalanced. Like two people stuck on a seesaw, most relationships have one person always up in the air and the...
by Dr. Adams | How To Understand Yourself
eingMost major religions promote helping others less fortunate or those in need. But, do people help one another naturally and instinctively? Or, must this be taught? And learned? If so, when and how do people learn kindness to others? I find children learn to either...
